During one of our ‘SEEMINGLY’ intellectual
chit-chats, a very good friend of mine asked me, "How will you
characterize the state of being in love?”. I thought a lot but whatever came to
my mind seemed to be very adequate as well as inadequate description of the
indescribable feeling. After a limbo of one and a half year and observing many
acquaintances and well knowns who are desperately in love, I think I can
finally answer her question.
To my truest belief (Hmph! truest), the
most striking characteristic of being in love is that ‘in desperate love we
always invent the characters of our partners’. We start portraying our partner’s
looks, dressing, behavior, beliefs, talents, hobbies, thinking, attitude,
altitude and even aptitude (tad appalling but a true fact). We get disappointed
when our beloved fails to play the character, we’ve created for them. After all
we created and decorated it with such a divine interest. A character they
should fit in, perfectly. Did I say ‘they should’? Minor correction here, they
have to! Anyways it’s minor only, right?
My friend X, who is an efficient singer,
wants her boyfriend to sing like Enrique
Iglesias so that they both can sing duets, and you might consider it as an
exaggeration but I haven’t come across such a cacophonous human being.
Evidently X is very despondent and her boyfriend is a tortured soul (his
neighbors too!), the poor fellow has to practice singing by every now and then.
J, my classmate from school, always
featured his partner as a sophisticated and poised girl and so she is; with a
perfect balance of mind and composure! The girl also knows Italian and is an
epitome of sophistication. In J’s words ‘crème
de la crème’ (oops! not exactly his words, he learnt them from his
girlfriend!).
Preferences vary and that too swiftly and
moderately, in both ways. I enquired many persons and their preferences can
even make you go nuts. Some want their partners to be sporty, some want them to
be lazy (partners of some hyperactive persons really want so!), some want them
to be good speaker, some good listener, some want them to be intellectual, some
geek and the list and tally goes on like this.
It’s not like these are the signs of
selfish love; these are pure characteristics of deseperatey-in-love persons. As
they assume their partners as their personal property and I think each and
every owner wants to see his property in the best form and state. If there is
any alteration by any chance, they are fully capable to mend it and they mend
it by every possible way. It’s just like converting a NSC into a ULIP or KVP or
vice-versa according to the need and terms of conversion but ultimately every saving
is accounted for the MUTUAL FUND which insures for a better future. So never
mind their acts as they are just too much sunken in love which makes them to do
all this stuff.
Correct? Correct!
