Social media and Life..

    Nowadays I often receive notifications from my social media accounts like, ‘Did you see what X commented on Y’s profile picture’? Or ‘Have you seen latest check-in by your friend Z’? Similarly the e-shopping apps send ‘See how much one of your contacts saved on that deal!’ kind of alerts every now and then. Seeing all this I wonder, isn’t it all just a more refined e-version of our neighborhood aunties who are always busy in gossiping about what someone said or what someone did?

                        
                                    

      Jokes apart, actually the social media has impacted our lives beyond our imaginations. Gone are the days when people used to go on a trip for enjoyment, purchase something to fulfill a purpose or say, read a book to enhance their knowledge pool. Now each and every of these things and a lot of many other things are done only, so that people can brag about themselves on social media. Fame of a person is measured on the basis of how many likes and comments are earned by him/her.

    

      In our advents of making our lives a social affair, we forget some basic things like; we have a real life too! Remember the last time when you didn't open your social media accounts for more than a few hours? I also confess that my fingers automatically go to the links of these accounts periodically and I browse and come across everything that’s none of my business. Realizing this all, I miss the times when instead of having 756 Facebook friends, I had just 2-3 friends whom I knew inside out and kept in touch with always. I miss the times when we used to travel and gather experiences rather than gathering selfies.

 

       So what is the way out, you ask? I remember once I forgot my cell phone while going for work. That whole day I experienced strange kind of peace within me, also on a trip to a difficult terrain I remained cellular-networks-less for more than a week. Undoubtedly it was the time when I re-connected to myself, I felt like I found a long lost friend—Me. So it’s as simple as this, ditch the virtual world every once in awhile and immerse in experiences that life provides you with. ‘Don’t make life a monochromatic experience rather witness all hues and shades of it’, suggested a wise man recently!  

                                 

When slugs throw dirt on you !

  If you are a rising superstar, you must have come across a common situation sometime, somewhere in your life ( Yes, It's a definite sign of being a superstar). This situation arises when some slugs try to throw dirt on you. They do it for two reasons, firstly they don't have anything substantial to do in their lives and then, they can't withstand your aura. They don't have guts and qualities to upgrade themselves to your level so they try to downgrade you to their level. 
  
   Now, the question arises what to do and not to do when it happens with you. Here is a short list, 

1. First of all, be super happy about it as it shows you have qualities or achievements, they are jealous of. Always remember no one throws dust on someone who is on a downfall. Slugs throw dirt only on rising superstars. Celebrate this fact ! 

2. Stand firmly for whatever you feel is right. In the end nothing matters except what you stood for and how firm you were in doing so. A person who doesn't stand for anything is basically a spineless person. Live like a legend, not like an earthworm. 

3. Don't pay heed to their efforts of vilifying your image as those who have some brains wouldn't believe those slugs and those who believe in them, themselves belong to their category. You don't owe anyone any explanation. 

4. Laugh and smile even more as it will break their hearts so bad and make them wonder that why are you not shattering despite of their mightiest efforts. 

5. And last but not the least, never ever go down to their level. Always keep the difference between you and them alive. After all, you're a rising superstar who has to conquer this world ! 

The Birth-day that became the Worth-day!

12 am- Here starts the celebration of getting older. The best friend (Shi) calls and after some 20 minutes of gushing, grinning and grooving, I accept that she is practically my boyfriend figure. Sometimes I'm overwhelmed by the unconditional love of my friends (Shi, Apy and Swa), who were actually more excited about my birthday than me.

11 am- I finish Mrs. Funnybones, a book by beauty with the brain Twinkle Khanna. I gifted this book to myself in order to survive my birthday with a relationship status as ‘a single girl’. I actually asked a few days back to some of my friends(Aks, Joe) that what should I gift myself on my birthday and got marvellous suggestions like, gift yourself a boyfriend. Well, I preferred the book over the boyfriend. It amazes me that how books attract me more than living beings. Well, Finishing this book makes me sad as I crave for more from Twinkle.

5 am- I reach the awkwardly awkward workplace to carry on an odd shift duty only to discover that I share my birthday with Katrina Kaif and Aruna Asaf Ali. Sharing your birthday with a Bharat Ratna
Awardee and a Diva surely makes you feel good about yourself. Also today, the beautiful state of Uttarakhand is celebrating Harela, a plantation festival. These little-little information are sufficient to keep me amused.

4 pm- Inspired by the go organic campaign, I plant a baby Hisbiscus Rosa Sinensis plant, only to be declared as a psycho by mom as I keep on checking on it after every 10 minutes. Spoiler Alert for future kids, you people are going to be blessed with a nagging and overprotective mother.

5.30 pm- Best friend's husband (Ash) calls with an unknown number and here starts whole guess-who-am-I game.  I confuse his voice with best friend's father's voice and call him uncle but later on get able to calm him down by saying that uncle has a magical voice.

6.30 pm- I get indulged in watching Wimbledon Men’s Singles final match. After the initial hiccups, my childhood crush Roger Federer gains the momentum and beats 28 years old Cilic with such an ease. The way he hops, yanks, jumps and scores aces so easily, makes me proud of my choice all over again. Yes, on the auspicious day of today, Federer manages to clench this deserving grand slam. He is a grand proof that age is just a number.

8 pm- I try to act surprised on receiving a truffle cake and beautiful roses by brother and sis-in law (shiv,Nan), as I overheard their conversation with mom about a surprise gift. A little while later mom manages to get this wonderful cake upside down and ends up giving me fuzzy logics like it’s all get mushy once it is inside your mouth, kudos mom!

9 pm- Four year old cousin gives me a compliment that I look beautiful and even plants a few kisses on my face, leaving me to wonder how fast forward he will become once he will reach my age. Also by this time atleast 20 persons already asked me when I'm going to get married.  A birthday is the most auspicious occassion of asking such questions, I guess.

11 pm- I am ending the celebration of getting weirder by my favorite thing in the whole world. I get stuck with inertia of rest at times and stop writing but when I get my momentum back, I realize how much I love
writing and will always do!

I think I’ve finally come to the terms of getting older.So, Happy birthday to me.

Oh life, dear life!

In a few hours, I’ll cross another milestone of my life. Yes, I’m turning a year older however not getting any wiser. Instead of wisdom,years just add on to my self-acclaimed esoteric theories regarding life and I think that it’s better to pass on this pseudo-wisdom, than to keep them inside me. So here I am,with few more such theories.

1. I admit that during last year I encountered a lot of humans, humans of all kinds, all tastes and all sizes. What I observed is, a person can enjoy the company of only a few among all the humans he/she encounters and I’m so weirdly weird in my choice of human beings. I’m not likely to like the company of a person who offers me a company without actually offering me a true company. If in the company of a human being I get nothing new and I remain the same person at the end of this company, it feels like a sheer waste of time to me. For being the person who can offer a true company to others, one should be open to new things and new views and should have a progressive mindset. I’m not saying that reading vividly is the only way to acquire this quality but yes, it is a quite effective method to achieve this purpose. Hence it is a good idea to be friends with a person who reads various things; he/she is likely to offer you a true company. And especially if you are planning to date a person, make sure that person is a bibliophile. For all of you who get disenchanted with things/persons easily (like me), this is a wonderful idea as reading makes a person, a brand new one, every time he/she reads something as reading evolves us. And I’m not exaggerating it in saying that if a person is not a fan of reading, I’m not even sure how to talk with that person! (You agree? Great! You don’t? Who cares! )

2. I discovered a brand new way of being young forever. The first and obvious method is to be friends with the 5 W’s (why, who, where, what and when) and 1 H (how), so that the child-like quality of being curious always remains alive. And the second and even better method (my patented one) is to be friends with people younger than you. So all of you who are turning (or feeling) older, discard your own friends (sorry, Shi) and be friends with their younger siblings (welcome S and U in my life!). Get adapted to their terminology; benefit yourself with their energy and Eureka! You get to remain young forever.

3. Two very wise people (S, U) made me realize that we do almost everything in our lives under peer pressure of family, society and our conditioning. Try to avoid doing things under peer pressure and if you can’t, at least make fun of this fact that whole of your life is being controlled by a thing called peer pressure.

Life may be hard, it is not a bed of roses, it is not a cake walk but yes, it is a lot easier if you keep on smiling. So smile, go on and always remember that if life gives you lemons, make lemonade and smile some more.

Marriage? seriously?

A few days back my mom showed me picture of a gentleman in his mid twenties and that’s when this conversation took place,

Mom- Take a look, how’s he?

Me- one nose, two eyes, two ears, hair on the head, normal, he is absolutely normal!

Mom- so do you like him, should I take it forward?

Me- excuse me?

Mom- c’mon, you’re not a kid anymore, all of your friends are getting married.

Me- Not now, ask me again after this century.

I don’t know why parents are so much obsessed with the idea of getting their kids married as soon as first member of their friends circle gets married. They are always like, “see, such a nice guy X has found” or “If you will marry too late, your kids will call you granny instead of mommy!” 

This ends in some random snaps getting waived in front of you every week, getting you convinced by any relative that visits home that it’s the right age to get married and making you wonder that why in the world you had to grow up! Once I was asked if I like someone else so that I’m so reluctant in this matter and I saw blank and shocked faces when I replied that I like too many people but none so much that I can spend rest of my life with them.

I mean, seriously, what is this fuss all about? Why can’t an individual lead a single life and why no one pays attention to the benefits of living a single life. Parents say that you need someone to share your life with, but why? I don’t feel like sharing even my cone of icecream with someone, spare life. They say marriage gives you children that provide you some motive in life, but who says I don’t have any motive in life? I have bigger motives in life than to stay up with a newborn for whole night, cleaning up after it and become a zombie till it starts going college.

In addition, God created me with some very special things that suggest I should remain single for whole my life, I talk while sleeping, I put my arms and legs on anything that is found in my close proximity, sometimes I throw things out of my bed in deep sleep. I’m an easy going person most of the times but sometimes I want time of my own. I don’t allow anyone to sneak in my room during those show-me-the-meaning-of-being-lonely times.Moreover I’ve turned into an over organized person recently and I often scold people who try to ‘help me’ by putting things at wrong places in my cupboard, a whole human being sharing my cupboard and ruining it’s decorum is far far away from the wildest of my imaginations. I can’t imagine anyone bearing with all these norms and that too when I’m not the progeny of any billionaire.

And I fear, what if one fine day I find out that the person I’m living with is a moron/ not-that-classy-as-he-seems-to-be/ a freak or what if he finds out something like this about me? Would he understand that I want to take a break from him/ never see his face again?

Well, I hope that if actually I’ll have to live with someone (The One), he never sees this post and I get more fascinated towards the fact that guys possess some cool stuffs (big comfortable shoes, screwdrivers, cool books and guys’ deodorants), he'll let me use occasionally and I’ll get someone who will listen to my monologues. I better do it fast before next century arrives and Mom comes again with a random snap!

And why should I fit in?

‘You should interact with people more’, she suggested.

‘Not this again’, I said.

‘And you are not the same person anymore’, he added.

‘Not this again’, I requested.

‘And this is how you are supposed to be’, they implied.

‘Not this again’, I screamed.

There is nothing that disturbs me more than the mundane and imposed things. How the things are and how they should be, how inappropriate I am to fit in and what should I do to fit in; these are perhaps the most unwanted discussions of my life. Hence, greatest of my fantasies involve ‘running’.

Running barefoot somewhere in Sonoran desert, running endlessly on an endless street while wearing a long floral white gown, running with the sea waves of some anonymous beach and perhaps running away to some uninhabited place too. I want to run away from every mundane and imposed situation.  

People say that you should face what disturbs you so that it will stop haunting you. But I feel that sometimes it is better to escape than to let a thing shred you mercilessly. Conformity is not a choice; anyway, as Rita Mae Brown famously said, “I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself”. So no, I would never conform to banality. I can bear with people not approving of me but I can’t bear being an alien to myself.

What are the not-so-mundane/unimposed things you might ask. Actually even I can’t answer that accurately as I’m still exploring it’s dimensions. But I can provide you a vague picture of what I think of it. While doing a certain thing if you feel that you would do it in exact same manner even if no one was watching you, if you do a thing with same passion even if no one knew you are doing this thing then that thing is certainly what you actually want to do. And what you actually want to do can not be a mundane/imposed thing, at least not for you.

A-not-so-mundane/unimposed thing enters inside you like a sea wave enters through a sea stack, it flows inside you thoroughly mingling with your whole being and when it leaves you, you are not the same person anymore. You evolve. You feel sheer happiness running in your nerves. On the other hand, doing a mundane/imposed thing keeps you the same person for centuries.

Dipping in the awesomeness of what your heart wants you to do is a blissful feeling. Once you will taste it, you’ll get addicted and this addiction would become the most beautiful thing of your life.

The cherry on the top of the cake is, when it becomes monotonous, you can try doing a mundane thing. You will realize what is your real desire and destiny in nanoseconds!

                                                                             

Beyond That Smudged Mascara ..

                 “Since a very long time (almost five to six thousands years), she was wondering what was missing in her life. Something was creating a void in her heart, a void which was sized greater than the ozone hole situated above Antarctica. A void so grave, that it endangered her whole being. A void that welcomed so many nights with smudged mascara and tears drenched pillows in her life.                                                                      

                                                                                        That void was created under so dark some circumstances that it turned even darker and refused to go. Those circumstances are irrelevant and they need not to be here in this post so I’m excluding them on purpose. That void gave her immense pain but that pain became her habit to such a level so that soon it became her lighthouse and her albatross simultaneously.

                                                                       

She wanted to fill that void but she found herself so weak to complete that task alone. She looked for someone who could help her with that. She was so desperate in doing so that she engaged herself in some abusive relationships. How were those relationships and what went wrong with them is also irrelevant here so I would skip that too.

                                                                                          

           All her life she was waiting for someone who could love her, who could support her when she had questions about her existence and who could take care of her. Eventually she found out one day that the person she was looking for since ever was none other than herself. She started loving herself and she realized that it was the most genuine form of love she ever witnessed.

                                                        A balanced mind and a healthy body were the results of that self love. The hardships and the lonely nights became her lessons of the life and soon she became invincible and that void turned into an epitome of confidence sized of Mt. Cotopaxi. She was an alpha woman now, absorbing and radiating more happiness than she ever thought of.’’

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If reading this story made you feel like you can see yourself in the pre-change-protagonist, irrespective of your gender, it is high time you should take the same route as she did for a few reasons,

    1.     None other than yourself can help you. It’s your life, your struggles, your traumas and last but not the least, your story!

    2.     Staying in an abusive relationship means you can’t take a stand for yourself, if you can’t do that why anyone else would do.

    3.     Your body and mind are the greatest assets you can ever have. Be friends with them and they will stand for you always.

    4.     Life is too pretty to be wasted.

   

5.     Smudged mascara is hard to remove and drenched pillows smell awful the next morning!

So take care all of you lovely ones and stay happy !!

                                       

Perfect gift you ask? wait!

“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.”

-Mary Oliver

The other day I was wondering what could be a perfect gift to give someone. It may seem like a mundane question but then it gets difficult as you think about the possible viable options. The joy of giving is beyond all the earthly joys and hence this question deserves some ponder. So let’s analyze it.

Flowers, you say? The grand gladioli, creative carnations and resplendent roses! Yeah, flowers look pretty; smell good too but then what? See them wilting day by day and you will feel a certain kind of sadness around. They become more of a burden on the soul with passing time.

Certain gadgets, you suggest? Well gadgets are definitely attractive I would say with shiny outlook and various functionalities but in less than a month they would become obsolete and outdated with updated versions coming in market almost daily and in less than six months they would be replaced. So all of you pop-culture-crap-creatures, I say no to gadgets as well.

And similarly I would reject options like chocolates, perfumes and ornaments as they fail on some grounds.

A gift I feel must be an endless source of light, a heavenly shower, a basket of hopes or a beam of sunshine. But these things are beyond the ambit of human beings. I wonder isn't there something which includes all of them and remains within our reach too. I want an answer and this desire is so fierce that I look everywhere to find it. I look outside and then I look inside myself too and I find,

“I am not sure that I exist, actually. I am all the writers I have read….” – (Jorge Luis Borges)

Yes, a major part of me is what I've read. I can find the greatest of writers and their quotes inside me. This is a thing that would go to the grave with me and so the thought of the person, who introduced me to these quotes/ writers/ books. This makes a book the most awesome and dangerously beautiful gift at the same time. Times will come and go but some ideas, quotes and beliefs would remain with you beyond life.

And I’m certainly that weirdo who would want you to remember her with a deep seated idea in your mind that transgress time and space. So I’m sorry for the spoiler alert but next time when you are getting a gift from me you can save the adrenaline rush while unwrapping it by being sure that it is a book.

 Now, kill me royally!

Secret of ultimate happiness

‘The most important relationship in the life is the one you have with yourself. And if you have that, any other relationship is a plus and not a must’ – Diane Von Frustenberg

The world, we live in, is full of colors, music, vibes, hopes and possibilities. We experience and explore these things daily and this world keeps on bedazzling us with many more such things on a regular basis. Truly said, ‘the best of the ideas/motivations in life come through personal experience’. This whole scenario seems so perfect and beautiful, but it gets complicated as soon as the idea of ‘a-company-while-exploring-things’ enters in it. 

Man is a social animal. We need society for nurturing ourselves and with the society, the idea of a partner and procreation comes too in the picture. We are conditioned to get a partner and settle with him/her while approaching mid twenties (or thirties), blend our lives with them and live happily-ever-after. This whole system seems so easy and conventional, then why marriages fall apart and individuals involved in it suffer?

Well, there may be a hundred of explanations for this but I’m dealing with only one of them this time. My perception for this problem may seem alien or even way-too-advanced to you but then it’s what I observed and truly believe in. I observed that sometimes in a marriage/ relationship individuals become too much codependent and needy. So needy so that they need the other person almost every time to make themselves feel happy. The idea of happiness for them is limited to their partners and what their partners do for them. They keep on saying things like, ‘I’m nothing without you’ or ‘without you I can’t remain happy ever’ to their partners. They become so needy and load their partners with bundle of expectations. They lower their self esteems to a level where their ‘better halves’ are actually ‘the better halves’ of them. Lets talk some physics here, if we will place too much of load on a limited area only, the pressure exerted would be so higher that it will eventually make some dents in that place. Similarly too much expectations from a single person will lead him/her to retort and hurt you.

So now comes the solution part, first of all try to be self sufficient. If you don’t enjoy your own company you won’t be able to enjoy someone else’s company too. ‘You’ should become your best friend. Try to take care of your body and mind so that they take care of you, too. Invest your time, money and energy in yourself and you will get tremendous results. Love yourself, only then the other people will love you. No one wants to be with a partner who is so weak, needy or fragile. Do all the things that make you happy and spread this happiness. Yes, strengthen your relationship with yourself so that all other relationships will be a matter of choice to you. Follow you dreams, pursue your passions and buy some flowers for yourself, next time you return home!  

And lastly, be proud to be in a committed relationship with yourself!

Saying no is the new sexy!

 “Saying no can be the ultimate self-care.” –Claudia Black

               People ranging from Steve Jobs to Paulo Coelho enlightened us with the usefulness of saying no. Like how saying no can save us from some very awkward situations, save our energy, time and money (and of course brains). But that time they didn’t realize that they are guiding Gen Y with an immensely useful dating tip. Yes, your guess is right.

Dating tip #1- Say ‘No’, It is the new sexy!

                 Gone are the days when agreeing with your partner in everything was considered as proper dating etiquette and when best partner of the world was used to be a person who would say yes on each and every thing. Let it be going out for a movie, buying a new pet or any petty/huge issue.

                                                           But, Aah! Human mind and it’s complexities. Our generation doesn’t like simple things. A thing should be complex and complicated to keep us enchanted with it. So those people out there who are agreeing with their partners on each and every thing, kindly stop. You are not doing any good to your relationship. Soon your partners will get bored with the monotonous ‘yes’. Stop repelling them. Learn saying no, ASAP.

                                                                               Saying no gives you a mystic aura that attracts your partner and makes them think that you have some covert aspects of your personality, they are not aware of and so they have to overt them. Soon they will get totally busy in overting those layers and won’t even realize that they are trapped in them. They won’t get a chance to get bored. So start saying no frequently. Like, no I’m not available for outing this time. Oh God no! I don’t like your shirt a bit. And keep saying stuff like, ‘baby! You are so good but the problem is with me, I think I’m not ready to take this relationship to the next step’. Saying things like these maintain your importance in the relationship.

                                                                  And when you become an expert in saying no, proceed to the next level. Now saying things like, ‘Oh! I don’t give a damn about that’ can come in handy. Trust me, it’s really attractive and soon you will become catnip of your partners. Just remember never to cross the line and maintain equilibrium.

                     

                   Now you may ask how to give them element of surprise at times? Well, just say ‘Yes’ for a change and your work is done!

Mars, Venus.. whatever !

        I don’t believe in that theory that says all the men are from mars and women from Venus. I mean, you can say it about majority but exceptions would always be there. There are some men who are Venusian and Martian women are there as well. Once I took on a quiz on internet that asked me all sort of random and weird questions and declared my mind is 68% male. Well I wasn’t too surprised at this result as I knew this fact since ever.

       

         My mind doesn’t work like a Venusian mind. It’s clearly Martian. For starters I don't like being miserable and that whole lets-talk-this-out part and then when someone suggests me to think about anything from my heart, I always wonder what my brain will do then? Heart has it’s clear function to pump and circulate blood throughout our body, then why to engage it in some extracurricular activity? It’s like asking Pope to take place of Brad Pitt or vice-versa. Whoever suggested that opposites attract didn't conclude this statement with the phrase ‘only to torture each other’. It’s very hard to keep a Venusian partner happy. If you are from mars and your partner is Venusian, trust me you are neck deep in trouble. If you will talk too much she/he will complain that you never listen and if you listen she/he will say that you never actually participate in the talks. And if relationship is this hard just think how hard breaking up is going to be!

       

      Never tell them that you want a breakup straightforwardly. It will blow them off. Just start with how good they are and how happy you are with them but how you are not able to do justice with the love they shower upon you. Conclude this speech with you-deserve-someone-better part. ‘I was lying in bed one day and was thinking about our relationship’ is always a good start. Don’t torture yourself with the thought that they deserve truth more than anything. It will just make them more miserable if you will tell them that how they damaged this relationship. They just need some good words and some appreciation so after that end of this talk would not matter much to them.

       And how to say ‘we should end this’ in Martian? Well, just say ‘we should end this!’

            Actually it’s weird but I feel that animals are better at breaking up than us. I’ve never seen a jealous hen fighting with her partner as he started going out with someone else. I even read in a research that a bull never mates with same cow twice. He can’t be fooled into it by any trick. Which is good in a way as the cow won’t be sitting near phone wondering if that second date might ever happen! Animals have a silent understanding that this thing is not working anymore. This suggests that animals are from a better planet than mars or Venus without any exception!

              

He writes, She writes !

The guy’s version-

My dear,

   Addressing you is always something that requires much efforts from my side as firstly, I’m not a very expressive kind of person and then you know almost everything about me. You and your company give me immense pleasure and that’s how I describe my relationship with you. Verboseness and grandiloquence is not the area that interests me. I know sometimes you want to listen words coated with sugar of love but saying them makes me feel uncomfortable! The love I feel for you surpasses all the worldly things. It is so simple yet so complex to describe that I prefer to remain silent. I request you not to force me to be too expressive as it will ruin the sanctity of my love.

    Also, term ‘future’ scares the hell out of me, when you ask me what our future is, I get sweat drops on my forehead as thinking about the past and contemplating about the future, both of us have wasted quite a long time of our lives. I want us to enjoy the beauty of the present.

   The things we talk are simply amazing. The smell of raindrops, the beauty of a verse, pronunciation of a word, clouds, worries, fears and life..everything! I want to appreciate the beauty of so many things with you. I really do!

    I know you put lot of efforts to keep it going on with me and I acknowledge your efforts wholeheartedly if not verbally. But trust me; even I’m putting efforts into it. Thanks for coming in my life!

Falsely yours!

Me.

The girl’s version-

My dear,

   Addressing you is always a pleasure as you are the one with whom I can speak my heart out. I want to know more of you. You and your company give me immense pleasure and that’s what makes our relationship so strong. I know you love me a lot but sometimes I want to hear it from you. It’s not like I don’t trust this fact that you love me but listening it again and again makes me feel so special. I love you from the bottom of my heart and I am not afraid to say it. But I understand that you don’t want to dilute the importance of these feelings so you keep quiet generally.

  When I ask you what is our future, it’s just the acknowledgement of the fact that how happy I am with you in present. I feel uncomfortable when your reply is just a moment of tormenting silence.

  The things we talk are simply amazing. The vastness of the subject of our talks overwhelms me with heavenly joy. You are my best friend and my partner both. I want to have innumerable conversations like these with you. I really do!

   And lastly be yourself, I can bear with your disguised love but I can’t bear with the idea of you tormenting yourself to make it up with me. I appreciate whatever you do for me. Thanks for coming in my life!

Truly yours,

Me.


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Is he/she the one?

      In life it’s important to be with the right person. Next question that could pop in your mind is, ‘how to find that right person?’ I mean we neither possess any x-ray vision so that we’d be able to distinguish them from others nor they are going to hold a placard that says, ‘I’m the one’. Then isn’t it a big problem? 
                          
                                  In their mid-twenties, everyone starts wondering if they are with the right person or not and if not then how are they going to find ‘The one’. Well, this post is for them who have some suspects of being ‘The one’ in their lives but they are not sure which one of them is it!
                                                       Firstly and most importantly make sure that in the company of that person you remain what you are. I mean a monkey can find a crocodile very attractive but then for how much time can he survive living in a pond and behaving like a crocodile. Thus;

Rule 1: If you are a monkey, make sure you remain one and not end up with a crocodile in his pond.

                                          Secondly, people give so much weightage to looks while finding ‘The one’. They want perfect height, built, features and complexion in their prospective ones. Spoiler alert! This is the known fact of this universe that once you possess something it isn’t that much attractive as it used to be. Remember all the extravagant shopping you’ve done? Let it be a watch so pretty or a car so adorable. Do they seem as charming to you now as when you didn’t have them?

Rule 2: Even that awesome Gucci watch wouldn’t remain so awesome once when it is yours! Go for virtues you dumb.

         Then again, remember nothing in this world is absolute. Everything falls in one or another category of the relativity. So don’t go mad if you discover that your partner is not perfect because even you aren’t and no one is. If someone despite of all your irritating habits and shortcomings wants to live with you and listens to you with interest, trust me there is nothing more you could ask for.

Rule 3: Even gases follow real gas theory and not the perfect gas theory due to van der walls forces. So be realistic and keep calm!

Okay enough talking for now. Besties for the hunt people.

Love you all..!

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